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Why Your Relationship Can Use Therapy – Even (or Especially!) When Things Are Going Great

What if you and your significant other had regular opportunities to revive and deepen your relationship, focus on each other’s needs, emotionally invest in one another, and practice healthy, open communication skills—all in a nonjudgmental, compassionate environment? How might that change the dynamic of your relationship? Even if your relationship is still going strong, every committed couple deserves to reap the wide-ranging benefits of couple’s therapy.

Couple’s therapy?! Isn’t that only for marriages on the brink of divorce? No—in fact, those couples may have avoided the edge of the cliff, where it seems like divorce is the only option, if they had addressed negative communication patterns earlier in their relationship with the help of a counselor.

Do yourself and your partner a favor: No matter the current state of your relationship, visit a well-trained, experienced, and compassionate counselor regularly. Here at Helix, we encourage you to see beyond the societal stigma attached to couple’s therapy, and take the time to invest in the most important relationship in your life with the help of a couple’s counselor.

Every Team Needs a Good Coach

All of you hockey fans out there are well aware that Mike Babcock spurred the Detroit Red Wings on to unimaginable success and became their winningest coach.  In contrast, last year, he also patiently coached the Toronto Maple Leafs through their last-place league finish.

Just like a good coach, Helix’s couple’s therapists patiently work with both extremely functional AND dysfunctional marriages—with great success. They tailor their knowledge of healthy relationship patterns to each couple, accounting for individual strengths and weaknesses, length of marriage, and communication styles.

Even the teams with the best individual players—think Olympic teams—may not perform well without a coach who understands how vital teamwork is to overall performance. Helix’s counselor-coaches build cohesiveness, creating a team-based approach to life.

If your relationship is “good” right now, don’t you want it to be “great?” A counselor-coach can optimize partnerships and help to transform adversarial relationships into high-functioning teams.

Nix Destructive Patterns

Here at Helix, we apply the latest cutting-edge neuroscience research, which includes the principle that neurons that fire together, wire together. As you and your partner do life together, you are biologically-speaking “becoming one.” Your mirror neurons compel you to match the behavior of your spouse.

Knowing this, imagine how easy it is to develop healthy patterns or destructive patterns. But through a process called neuroplasticity, the brain can develop new, optimal pathways. Helix’s couple’s therapists harness the body’s powerful healing mechanism (neuroplasticity) to nip destructive patterns in the bud.

Outsider’s Perspective

Helix’s couple’s therapists approach each relationship with an objective, outsider’s perspective. If you and your spouse feel trapped inside a box, a counselor can help you find a way out. A couple’s counselor may even present you with life alternatives that you have never even considered.

Revive/Deepen your Relationship

Especially when there are children involved, it is easy to neglect your marriage. But when children leave the house and you become an empty-nester, you may discover that there is a stranger sleeping in your bed. You and your partner don’t have to grow apart while you raise children. View couple’s therapy as a time to invest in each other and strengthen your relationship.

Open Communication

When life gets busy and you want to avoid spousal conflict, some issues might simmer below the surface. As you subconsciously resent your spouse, your spouse is unaware of a problem.

Couple’s therapy provides a nonjudgmental platform to air grievances, compliments, and observations. A couple’s therapist facilitates open, healthy communication patterns and teaches conflict resolution skills.

Leave Childhood Trauma in Childhood

The sad truth of the matter is that humans carry unresolved childhood trauma into future relationships. The way you reacted to your childhood environment (whether stressful or not) is the way you naturally react as an adult. Oftentimes, this behavior is modeled on parental behavior.

It can be scary to go back and address old traumas or abuse, but doing so is vital to a healthy marriage relationship. Don’t let festering childhood wounds control your adult relationships any longer.

Cohesive parenting

Now that you understand how your parents have influenced you, think about how your behavior affects your children. To shield them from experiencing their own childhood traumas, take time to thoroughly consider your parenting approach with your spouse. Conflicting parenting approaches send mixed messages to a child, leaving the child feeling unstable. Let a counselor help you to unite as one in the challenging arena of child-rearing.

Better Physical Health

Did you know that a healthy marriage is the cornerstone of mental and physical health? But on the flip-slide, a marriage with unhealthy patterns can cause chronic depression, anxiety, immune system dysfunction, poor cardiovascular health, hormonal imbalance, and even early death. With couple’s counseling, circumvent unhealthy relationship patterns and grow old together!

So whether you want an experienced, winning coach for your marriage or an objective, listening ear, contact Helix today to setup an appointment with our world-class couple’s counselors.

 

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